We hope all moms enjoyed their Mother’s Day. And since yesterday was Mother’s Day, we thought today would be a good day to discuss mother of the bride etiquette.
First, the etiquette rules for the mother of the bride are much more flexible today than ever before. Overall your Big Day allows them to mostly enjoy the party!
Mom’s involvement in your wedding comes down to money. It is directly related to how much money she and your father are putting towards the wedding. If they’re paying for it, then her involvement in your guest list, venue, floral , etc. will be greater than if she’s only making a contribution. If she isn’t helping you financially, but you want her to feel like a part of the wedding, then have her become your point-of-contact on the day so you can relax and enjoy.
Let’s talk about shopping now! We know that it is what mothers and daughters do best. But when it comes to wedding dress shopping for both bride and mom, it can become quite stressful. As the mother of the bride she is often invited on the wedding gown shopping trips. The etiquette that is displayed by moms in the dress salons is a whole other topic. Just be prepared for her to voice her opinion. You are her little girl.
As for the mother of the bride gown, etiquette recommends that she follows your lead as to the hue and formality of the dress she picks. For example, maybe she wants to complement your wedding colors or bridesmaids dresses or stand apart with something completely different in color. It is tradition that the bride’s mom buys her gown before the mother of the groom. Once mom has her gown picked, she calls the groom’s mother to describe her dress so the groom’s mom is sure not to clash or overshadow hers.
When it comes to shower organizing, whether it is the engagement dinner or bridal shower, mom is not expected to host one or both of these events. But if you are very close to your mom (maybe she is your Matron of Honor) and she wants to, then allow her that honor.
The tradition of just your father walking you down the aisle has evolved to being both mom and dad walking arm in arm with you if you choose.
And after you and your new husband hit the dance floor for your First Dance, etiquette is that the next couple to follow you out there is your mom and dad.